Dating as a plus size
Dating a plus size person is hard because being a plus size person is hard.
Size discrimination runs rampant, and it affects everything from healthcare to employment to media to the size of seats on public transportation to the self esteem of individuals.
Li told The Daily Dot, "We're just trying to provide a comfortable environment for women who happen to be a little larger." And when you go to Woo Plus' main website, the tagline, "Big girls, you’ve got more admirers than you think," will greet you. But the sentiment that Thorpe, Hayward, and Baum have all expressed with the app is one of dissatisfaction with perceived division.
Not wanting divide is definitely reasonable, and it's a feeling that can also be heard through campaigns like #Drop The Plus.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to use an app that is, in theory, meant for everyone.
But there's also nothing wrong with wanting to use an app like Grindr or Woo Plus that's catered to your own sexuality.
Maybe there'd be no need for Woo Plus, because fat individuals interested in being with someone who appreciates their fat could take to any standard dating site and not risk being told, "Sorry, you're fatter than your pictures," at an IRL meetup.
Some of Woo Plus' advertising is questionable, at best — the ad that Black highlighted in her tweet being a prime example. Could they have gone about these things far, far better? But is the actual woman's feeling in the aforementioned ad unrealistic? Because when, in this world, are fat women (and fat men, in all honesty) taught that they are just as sexually desirable as their thinner or toned counterparts?And it means that those not attracted to them are very rarely shy about expressing as much via "no fatties allowed" disclaimers on their OKCupid or Tinder profiles. A lot of the discomfort around the app also seems to stem from its use of terms like BBW.As Thorpe told ASOS in the same interview, "Personally, I am also not a fan of the term BBW — it makes me feel like I am a fetish purely for men and I’m not comfortable with that." Her thoughts on "BBW" aren't uncommon, and they're certainly understandable and valid.So in a way, I like that the founders have said that Woo Plus is "Tinder for BBW." Everyone knows Tinder is oft utilized for hooking up and nothing more.
And there's no reason that such sexual agency shouldn't be granted to fat individuals, whether they identify as BBW, BHM, or simply "plus size."In this equality-filled utopian future we so often like to imagine, maybe there'd be no need for Grindr because gay men could express their queerness openly, in all parts of the world, without concern or consequence.A couple of years ago, I decided I'd never date anyone else who was interested in me "despite" or "regardless of" my body.