Differences between french and american dating culture
Canadians are somewhere in between, sometimes more European, but often closer to their southern neighbours. A 100-year old house or church is considered new by Europeans, but old by Americans.I have even heard Americans think that 200 years was 'ancient', a term that for Europeans normally refers to the Ancient World, i.e. Perceptions are reversed when it comes to distances.Europeans would tend to think that driving 100 km is quite a long way, while for Americans that would be rather near.This is due to the much higher density of population in Europe, and the smaller size of Europe (believe it or not the EU is over twice smaller than the USA).We must take a look at who we are drawn to in the first place, and why.If you keep attracting (and are attracted to) men who are emotionally unavailable and who treat you poorly, then it really doesn’t matter if your dating prospects are from France, New York, Vancouver or Mars – the shift needs to occur within you first and foremost.They grow up developing friendships with the opposite sex and in turn, develop more empathy and understanding of the opposite sex.In American culture, there is a clear segregation of the sexes, boys play with boys and do boy things and girls do the same.
With European men, if there’s mutual interest, they keep seeing that person and don’t keep hunting for better options simultaneously. Nor will they freak out when discussions of commitment or future come up.Now, when I discuss the differences between European and American, I’m referring to a mindset. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid.You can very well be born in America but have a more “European” mindset and vice versa. Perhaps this ‘score mentality’ is for bragging rights, perhaps it’s for validation so they can feel wanted and desired, or perhaps it’s a pure ego play.These are of course the major trends, and exceptions exist everywhere.
Irish and Polish people, for instance, tend to be closer to the American mainstream than to some of their fellow Europeans.
However, the common history, geography and socio-political evolution of the European continent, as well as the cultural divergences that have occured in former colonies, have resulted in the creation of a common basis for European culture that contrast (sometimes sharply) with the USA or the rest of the Western world.