Emotional boundaries in christian dating
Some examples of too much sharing early in the relationship include: praying together, sharing your deepest testimonies, talking about the kids you’ll have together about your future marriage or children, or even having a one on one Bible study together. You are not that persons main provision of spiritual, emotional, and physical intimacy – that is Jesus’ job.Deep emotional intimacy should not be established in the early stages of your relationship.Let me point out a few things to consider in order to avoid the pain of premature emotional bonding in a dating relationship– a relationship that may never translate into marriage.It might sound contradictory to your Christian beliefs.As wise as that decision may have been at the time, when she finally did start dating Brian in her late twenties she went too deep, too fast.She had been holding onto her emotions for so long that when she finally entered into a relationship she let the flood gates open.But here’s the thing about dating in an emotionally healthy way- it’s important to make sure that your emotional relationship is growing proportionally to your level of commitment.Emily felt so connected to Brian, that when their relationship ended up not working out- she felt so confused, empty, and incredibly hurt.
It seems to me that our Christian society can get so fixated on the “physical” aspects of intimacy, that we neglect the emotional and spiritual boundaries that can be just as binding and just as devastating in the end.
He was being nice, but he wasn’t acting like a friend. He just did not know how to be friends, so I said we should not talk for a while.